This article was originally printed in Sassy magazine in November 1994. I got it from
Sassy, November 1994 Tiny Beck: Your Personal Advice Columnist Precocious sage Beck lays it down PITCH PROBLEM I have a voice that's kinda different from others. At one moment it can be very high-pitched and at the next it's normal. While some people love it and think it's cool, there are those who think it's annoying and that I make my voice shrill on purpose. Do you hink my voice turns guys away from me? What should I do? --Born vocally stretched out 'People have made whole careers out of high-pitched, shrill voices. Some of the most popular singers today sound like total freaks. I think as you grow older your voice will deepen and mature. If it doesn't, you can always resort to a four-track, using the pitch control to slow your voice down. And as far as guys being turned off--you need to be with someone who appreciates all aspects of you, be they monstrous or endearing.' WALLOWING IN UNREQUITED LOVE I love a guy who's going to be 17 about two months after I turn 15. He's my brother's best friend. The problem is, I've loved him for a little over three-and-a-half years. I know he doesn't like me, but he knows I like him. And he has a girlfriend. I can't seem to get over him. I haven't gone out with a guy in two years because I like him so much. Whenever I think about him, I feel like I'm going to cry. Sometimes I even do. I don't think he'll ever like me. --Amy 'Like the song says, "Hard, ain't it hard, to love the one who doesn't love you." Hard it is, but nothing's easier than dwelling on it. As difficult as it may seem I think you need to go out with other people; give yourself a chance to grow fond of someone else.' DO BOYS LIKE CLOTHES? Do guys ever notice fashion? I mean, do they see the groovy outfits girls wear or just the girl underneath the clothes? --A. 'I tend to be annoyed by "fashion" or fashion-obsessed people. It's fine and well for people to feel good about how they look, and dressing in a wig and knickers can be fun, but ultimately there are better things to be concerned with--like waffle irons, dulcimers, oral hygiene. "Style is its own reward." (People pay me to look bad.).' BOYFRIEND'S A BUM Here's my problem. Whenever my boyfriend and I go out, I have to pay for everything. I work and he doesn't, so if I want to do something Ihave to pay. It's starting to make me really mad. How can I get him to start paying his fair share? --Becoming broke 'This slacker scourge is ravaging the minds of our youth. Tell this guy to get motivated Tony Robbins style: "Yesterday is a canceled check. Your maximum point of power is now.".' HURTING AND HUNGRY I heard the other day that my friend's mother got shot. They think the dad did it because he threatened to hurt her before. His mother was one of my friends. I used to talk to her all the time. Lately I haven't been eating much because of that. What should I do to get her off my mind? --Thinkin' problems 'You need to talk about this with someone to sort out your grief and loss, and you need to start eating again.' CONTROLLING FRIEND My best friend is like the mother I never had. And never really wanted. Everything I do wrong she says, "That's rude" or "You shouldn't have done that." She drives me crazy. What should I do? --Help 'True friends are helpful and understanding, not judgmental nags. Tell her as graciously as possible to lay off.'